Bad boys come first, Gay men come second, Nice guys come last

Ok I've seriously cut down on the partying and clubbing so I can focus on my writing, and just want to meet a girl I actually like. So tonight was a really surreal experience.

I went clubbing with 7 people tonight and one of the girls I kinda like but I can tell she just wasn't interested and when everyone spread out her and another girl went and spent the entire night with some guys I know that are players. Maybe they're just friends.

But get this.

Meanwhile as I was going wtf, the only gay guy in our group dances with loads of girls. So I start testing this all out. Bad boys > gay men > nice guys.

So I go hit on girls like I usually do and get responses.

Then I walk straight up to two girls say I'm 100% gay and make them laugh and get them to dance with me.

But then I act like a nice guy and crash and burn 100% of the time.

WOMEN ARE NOT ATTRACTED TO NICE GUYS!

Why the hell are all my female friends asking me to intro nice guys to them? If I introduce you to them you're going to complain they're friggin boring! At least ask for exactly what you want, ie NICE and CONFIDENT/FUN, but no one ever mentions the words confident or fun......

The reason there seem to be no nice (AKA nice and confident) guys out there is because if you cut out all the jerks and the nice "boring wimps". Then you got a small percentage of the men left, and most of those (since they respect women) are already in a commited relationship and not screwing around.

The reality is there are few nice guys that have a backbone. Most nice guys will jump when a woman goes "doggy, jump!". Whilst most of the men with backbones that don't fear the consequences of their actions, just don't give a crap about a woman's feelings.

If you want to find the type of man that's strong and interesting, but also a loving husband, like Mel Gibson's character in Braveheart (minus the kilt) you're going about it the wrong way if you think you can turn an outgoing jerk into one.

Love doesn't turn an asshole into a nice person. Well maybe for 2-3 years but not forever. Who the hell dreamt of the changing guy theory anyway? Hollywood?

So basically 100% of the single female population are competing for 2-3% of the single male population that are strong and nice at the same time. That's why there's a shortage of "nice" (aka Nice and confident) guys all over the world. That's why "there are no nice guys out there" is a complaint voiced by single women everywhere.

Solution? Everyone GO FOR THE GAY MEN!

(for the real solution you can contact me personally or just buy the friggin book when it comes out)

Book is done!

If anyone has contacts in publishing in the UK or US please let me know.

The first half of my book explains how to spot jerks and how to avoid them. The second half of the book explains how to attract decent men, and the positive thinking processes required to get them.

The reason some girls stay single.......

http://melodymaker.posterous.com/the-reason-some-girls-stay-single-very-funny

This is too funny, I was laughing so hard. At first I thought it must have been a fake but then I did some research and found this guy is for real........

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_N._Sears

Questions

If any of you have specific questions about men or how men approach relationships, please ask here. Don't limit it to specifically Hong Kong. It should be a general question.

Please note if the question is good, I'll probably stick it in my book. Cheers

Free as a bird

For those that don't know I quit my job just over a week ago, and yeah I was in the banking industry. I'm not raving mad, I'm quite familiar with what the job market's like right now.

Life's just too short to be miserable. Hence I'm now writing my book full time. Wish me luck, will come up with a post here later in the month when I'm taking a break from writing.

Apr/ Chapter 3: Quote of the day

"If you ever want something badly, let it go. If it comes back to you, then it's yours forever. If it doesn't, then it was never yours to begin with." Demi Moore, Indecent proposal

Although I hate to quote movies, this is a great quote, because it clearly explains one of the most important things about relationships for both men and women.

One of the secrets of being more attractive is if you don't actually worry about losing the other person. When a partner starts to withdrawl or not treat you well, it's more effective to be indifferent than to chase them and act insecure or needy. Of course if you really like them that's going to be hard to do, but that's where the secret lies.

The other side of following through with this is of course, if the other person doesn't really care about you then they won't chase anyway. That's not to say to everyone should dump their partners immediately to test this theory out. The point is, if the partner is lukewarm or not treating you well, you've got nothing to lose by dumping them.

Of course it's going to hurt, that's why it's important to focus on the point that you've got nothing to lose.

Apr/ Chapter 2: Cultural influence

A couple of girls asked me if I felt HK girls are easy based on my last post about pick up artists. Obviously there's displeasure at any hint of that, and I understand so let me clear things up.

It depends on the definition of easy. A better way to explain it here in Asia is there's a skew. It's much easier for an elligible guy in Asia to meet and pick up many women, much easier than the West. The average guy however finds it much harder.

The skew is even greater in China or Taiwan. The problem is with the Chinese culture (and yes I'm Chinese, I'm not being racist) which gives people more pressure to find $ and get married than Western cultures that are more laid back about money and marriage.

Therefore eligible guys find it much easier to get a girl whether for the short term or a proper relationship because they can play on the desires of the girl. In the US a not very outgoing guy who actually has a decent job will find it much harder to find a decent girl compared to here.

On the other side of the scale many average Chinese guys can't afford to date HK girls, and/or they might be lacking in personality. So there's a horde of local guys that have gone to China to find wives. With the mass exodus, it skews the single and available sex ratio and makes the competition for elligible guys even tougher for the girls, and easier for the eligible guys.

Of course not even woman in Asia puts huge emphasize on a guys wealth but it doesn't matter if you don't, because other girls are competing with you. Women in Asia really should lower their standards on what the guy makes, and raise the standards on how men treat them and what those men can get away with.

If overnight all women dumped men that cheated, or treated their GFs poorly. You know what would happen? Men would fear not being able to find a gf or wife and behave better. As long as a large % of women are willing to put up with men behaving badly, then that ruins it for all women.