"If you ever want something badly, let it go. If it comes back to you, then it's yours forever. If it doesn't, then it was never yours to begin with." Demi Moore, Indecent proposal
Although I hate to quote movies, this is a great quote, because it clearly explains one of the most important things about relationships for both men and women.
One of the secrets of being more attractive is if you don't actually worry about losing the other person. When a partner starts to withdrawl or not treat you well, it's more effective to be indifferent than to chase them and act insecure or needy. Of course if you really like them that's going to be hard to do, but that's where the secret lies.
The other side of following through with this is of course, if the other person doesn't really care about you then they won't chase anyway. That's not to say to everyone should dump their partners immediately to test this theory out. The point is, if the partner is lukewarm or not treating you well, you've got nothing to lose by dumping them.
Of course it's going to hurt, that's why it's important to focus on the point that you've got nothing to lose.
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love your posts, very interesting insights into a wide range of problems/solutions to relationships. i learnt a lot.
you have to let me know the name of your book when it is published n where to get it cus im so gonna buy one!!!
keep it up, looking forward to your next update!
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